In my last post I talked about building our confidence, surprisingly by doing something that is almost effortless: wearing red lipstick. If you read some of my first post/s, you are familiar with that month I went through to finally make some adjustments to my life. With that being said, today we are going to discuss three important steps I have come across in my journey for personal development.

Let me start off by telling you that it has not been easy, I have had a difficult time finding the balance and time to do everything I set for myself. Yet one of the best things I could have done, was to define my life goal which basically sums up in two words: LIVE HAPPILY.

After living a difficult time, I understand that some things are inevitable, but it is up to us to decide how we are going to let them impact us. We can have as many life goals as we want, but it’s important to define the one that defines our life purpose. Doing so matters, because when something happens, good or bad, our life goal is a reminder that we are working for better things.

We don’t just magically end up living the life of our dreams. Therefore, it’s important that we define what goes into living our life goal, and getting those things done. I am currently at a point where I wan to finish school, I want to spend more time with my family, I want to take better care of myself, I want to do good at work, I want to build my confidence etc.

There is so much I want to do, and the day only has 24 hours. Planning out my day, and understanding my priorities and capabilities is the best advice I can give you. Setting up your plans ahead of time, makes it easier to stick to them. None the less, sometimes they will have to change, but at least you are better prepared. You know what is going on in your day, that you will know where to make adjustments.

Last but not least, reassurance, has been key in keeping up with my busy days, especially those that feel almost impossible to get through. Getting up at 5 a.m. to go work out is not easy, if I stayed up late the night before doing homework because before that I went to dance practice and or a family dinner. However, having my life purpose to look up to gives me the strength to keep going. When I am about to change something, for no good reason, I remember what I am working towards and why I do it.

Overall, if you too are trying to figure your life out, if you are not happy with who you are, try the following steps.

1. Define your life purpose.
2. Plan out you day around your life purpose
3. Always give reassurance to your life purpose

I encourage you to take some time alone to reflect on them, especially if you wish to become a better version of yourself. It will not be easy, but good things don’t usually come easily. We must work for them.